When to Initiate and When to Give Him a Little Room

I—Initiate Intimacy
Become a student of your husband in every area, but especially in the area of sexual pleasure. Ask him how you can please him. Be generous in your attention to him and playful in your pursuit of him (1 Cor. 7:3–5).

Men who perceive themselves as being a “disappointment to their wives” usually put up walls of protection and may no longer desire this level of intimacy. Be patient and realize your husband may struggle with insecurity and fear being a disappointment in this area as well
this can be extremely intimidating for a man.

Allow Him to Fail
Allow your husband the freedom to lead by allowing him to fail without fear of reprisal from you. He will fail. You fail. He will make decisions that aren't best. Allow him to learn from his mistakes.

If you are continually stepping in to show him the best route to take, the best way to navigate the roadways of your lives, he will move aside and let you take the wheel
and he'll never learn to how to be the driver.

When he does make a blunder, don't emasculate him by beating him up over it. Help him to pick himself up, dust himself off, and get back in the saddle by finding ways to affirm him and offer hope.

Be sensitive to your husband's needs. Don't initiate a potentially volatile conversation when he is under pressure from a deadline, exhausted, hungry, or has just arrived home.

Don't rush in to vent your feelings to him when you are in an emotional state. Practice self-control and spend some time in prayer, seeking God's grace for peace and tranquility before approaching him with a situation that needs to be discussed.

Put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity (Col. 3:12–14)

Do you need to work more on initiating with your husband or giving him a little room?

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Kimberly Wagner

Kimberly Wagner

Kimberly Wagner is the author of Fierce Women: The Power of a Soft Warrior and is a frequent guest on Revive Our Hearts radio program, as well as a regular contributor to the blog. Kimberly's passion is Christ and she … read more …

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