When Overlooking is a Good Thing . . .

I—Invest in Your Man
It’s a great idea to become a student of your husband and his interests. If he is a sports fanatic, join him. If he enjoys hunting, become familiar with it, ask questions, and participate at whatever level he invites you to be included.

Discover what communicates love to him, and then practice the golden rule in serving him in the way you would want to be served. Demonstrate love without expecting anything in return—habitually and cheerfully!

OOverlook a LOT!
There are many things we get hung up on that can be let go. When frustrated by an oversight or blunder, and when tempted to unload a criticism, first stop and ask yourself these questions: "In the whole scheme of eternity, does it really matter? Would correcting this mess-up break his spirit?"

NNever Demean Your Man
Seek to never treat your husband with disrespect publicly or privately. Honor God by honoring your husband who is of worth and value simply because he is created in God's image. Communicate to him that he matters to you (Eph. 5:22–31). Use Col. 3:12–17 as a guideline and cultivate the characteristics you find there.

Other Resources
This summer, Revive Our Hearts aired LeRoy’s and my story in the series: "A Hurting Couple Finds True Hope." You may find it helpful to listen to that interview with your husband or to watch our video together and then discuss similar patterns you see in your relationship. Or re-read this blog series and enter into some honest but gracious and humble communication about how to improve your relationship.

Wrapping Things Up
Everyone needs a refuge. Will you be that place of safety and security for your mate?

About the Author

Kimberly Wagner

Kimberly Wagner

Kimberly Wagner is the author of Fierce Women: The Power of a Soft Warrior and is a frequent guest on Revive Our Hearts radio program, as well as a regular contributor to the blog. Kimberly's passion is Christ and she … read more …

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