Alejandra Slemin: I think some children are a little more dramatic and play with things a little bit harder than others—it could be boys or girls.

One thing I try to practice is walking with them. My first temptation is to say, “Let’s do it. Let’s get this over with. Let’s get it done and move on.” But really listening to them as they express what it is that is hurting them.

I have to do that often with my son. “What’s in your heart? What’s bothering you about this situation?” Amazingly, they will say it. They will speak. But sometimes we don’t have the time to listen, or there is another child pulling on us.

But even if it is at bedtime or whatever quiet moment you can have with them. Just let them get it out and say, “This is how I’m feeling in this situation.” So listening to them.

Even though I don’t understand it or know that it will get solved, I need to let them know that I am with them, and mostly that God with them.

Later, it’s happened with my son, he’s said, “Thanks, Mom.” Later, hours later, days later . . .

Erin Davis: After the tears have dried.

Alejandra: Yes. After they have hurt themselves and they think, What was I fussing about? They will come and reflect.

And I think praying . . . Sometimes as moms, we skip the going on our knees step.

Erin: I have to remind …