Is Your Marriage Morphing?

I watched a movie a long time ago about an entire town in the middle of Arizona that had ceased to exist because a tiny organism, attached to a meteor from outer space, catapulted to earth and landed nearby. Throughout the movie, the mystery is why all those people died. Eventually, the deadly menace was detected and named The Andromeda Strain. The rest of the movie centered around the scientists as they studied the growing, goopy stuff to find out what conditions stimulated growth, and what stopped it.

As I thought about the topic of marriage this week, I realized there’s a parallel between this fictional movie and how couples relate in marriage. Andromeda grew and adapted to fit itself for survival, and as strange as it sounds, our marriages need that type of tenacity!

I married my high school sweetheart when I was twenty. We were still in college, and before marriage I never left my dorm without my makeup on and my eyelashes carefully separated with a straight pin. Not kidding! We have now been married for thirty-eight years, and I’m content if I can just find my makeup.

I’m very different from the naïve, vain, twenty-year-old me. Billy is also a far different man than he was in his twenties. As we have lived through so many life experiences together, we have changed individually, and our marriage has also changed. Our pursuit of God has been the constant. Because the Lord has led us through these changes together, we are far stronger together than we could ever be apart.

Our marriages should be a work in progress, always open to the morphing grace of God so that we accomplish our purpose of bringing Him glory!

“But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To Him be the glory, both now and to the day of eternity. Amen.” (2 Peter 3:18)

Listen to Holly and her husband, Bill Elliff, as they talk with Nancy Leigh DeMoss on Revive Our Hearts about “Building a Marriage That Glorifies God.”

About the Author

Holly Elliff

Holly Elliff

Holly has been married to her high school sweetheart for nearly fifty years. She has been a pastor's wife since she was twenty, has eight married children and twenty-two grandkids that are fourteen and under (and counting). Her life experiences … read more …


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