10 Questions to Ask Before Judging

"Who are you to judge me?!"

This question makes the rounds frequently. On the blogosphere, in the Twitter feed, pinned and posted, the message is blaring: "You have no right to judge me!"

And in one sense, I totally agree. I have no right to judge you.

If I were the authority of the universe, I would have that right.

If I owned the corner on truth, I would have that right.

If you came into existence because of my will and creative effort, I would have that right.

If my word were the final say, I would have that right.

If I were God, I would have that right.

When we deliver clear Scriptural truth, that is God's Word bringing judgment.

But the fact is, I am not God, but God has spoken. He has given His judgment on matters of ethics and morality. He is the authority of the universe. He does own the corner on truth. We did come into existence because of His will and effort. His Word is the final say. And God has the right to judge.

In fact, God is the judge.

And He is a gracious judge.

"Shall not the Judge of all the earth deal justly?" (Gen. 18:25).

God has provided us with His judgment through His Word. When Christians address moral issues and make a judgment based on Scripture, we are not "judging" that individual on the basis of our own authority. Our judgment is delivered from the authority of God's holy Word—not our own fallible word. Admittedly, we can mishandle His Word; we can misinterpret it and muddy the delivery or misunderstand the context at times. But when we deliver clear Scriptural truth, that is God's Word bringing judgment.

Jesus' Instructions

Jesus gave some pointed instruction as He warned us about judging others. He didn't tell us not to deliver judgment; He told us how to deliver it:

"You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye" (Matt. 7:5).

He gave these specific instructions to warn us that we'd better not confront someone else's sin until we first deal with our own hearts. This same instruction is repeated in the Gospel of Luke. Later Jesus gave a process we refer to as "church discipline" where the first step involves confronting someone in their sin:

"If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother" (Matt. 18:15).

Hmmm . . . that sounds an awful lot like "judging" someone.

In Paul's letter to the Galatians, he provides us with a bit of guidance in how we approach someone when we need to confront them and "deliver a message of judgment" (a word of truth from Scripture):

"Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted" (Gal. 6:1).

Jesus provides ample instruction for delivering the truth in love, and when we fail to do that, we aren't being faithful to love Him or others well.

Paul's instruction is helpful, it places a guiding principle for us to follow as we approach someone who is "caught" or entangled in a sinful lifestyle. Paul (as inspired by the Holy Spirit) warns us that we are in danger of falling into the snare of sin and we must be careful and watchful of our own hearts. Our motive in having this conversation must be restoration.

Preparing Our Hearts

Some questions that might help with heart preparation before "delivering judgment" would be:

  1. Is my motive pure? Is my greatest concern spiritual deliverance or restoration?
  2. Am I approaching this issue as a self-righteous bigot, or am I offering truth as one who is equally in need of God's transforming grace?
  3. Am I more concerned about winning an argument for morality than I am concerned about my opponent's need for salvation or spiritual growth?
  4. Am I prepared to give a biblical and gracious defense of my position?
  5. Am I addressing a truth issue, or is this a preference issue?
  6. Is this the best time to have this conversation?
  7. Have I thoroughly prayed over this conversation?
  8. Am I reacting in pride or humility?
  9. Are my emotions sinfully involved with this issue?
  10. Can I convey love to my opponent as I deliver this message of truth?

Have you been slammed for issuing "judgment"? I hope you'll run through the questions above when you're tempted to confront someone. Jesus provides ample instruction for delivering the truth in love, and when we fail to do that, we aren't being faithful to love Him or others well.

What are your thoughts on "judging others"?

About the Author

Kimberly Wagner

Kimberly Wagner

Kimberly Wagner is the author of Fierce Women: The Power of a Soft Warrior and is a frequent guest on Revive Our Hearts radio program, as well as a regular contributor to the blog. Kimberly's passion is Christ and she … read more …

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