Finding Freedom From Porn

I recently read about a girl who was strolling through a local chain store, when she felt a sudden and overwhelming urge for a chocolate candy bar. The urge became so powerful that she forgot what she was doing and headed straight for the candy aisle. She searched the options wondering which one she should choose. She spotted one she had never seen before. The label pulled at her desire with words like "Great new taste!" "Satisfaction guaranteed!" "No more hunger cravings!" The girl grabbed the candy bar and started savoring the first bite. Her entire being was enraptured in the moment. She loved the way the candy made her feel. It was so gratifying that she was sure she would never need another one again. All of the sudden the girl noticed a strange and disgusting flavor. Instead of eating smooth chocolate, she realized she was actually chewing on mud and gravel. The nasty taste became overbearing, and the girl's stomach started to churn at the thought of what was in her mouth. She ran to the water fountain, spit out the muddy mixture, and rinsed out her mouth. After a long moment at the water fountain the girl looked down at the remainder of the candy bar in her hand. Her thoughts drifted back to how creamy and delicious that first bite of candy tasted, and suddenly she longed for more ... Although that story is fiction, it gives us a very clear picture of how pornography works. Pornography covers itself in a candy-coated package offering up promises like "Satisfaction guaranteed!" and "No more cravings!" At first (like the candy bar), it seems to deliver those promises, but only for a short time. In the end you find yourself feeling disgusted by what you did and, at the very same time, strangely craving for more. According to recent research, it's estimated that 9.4 million women access adult pornographic websites every single month. Sadly, that number grows greater by the year. Girls of all ages are finding themselves freedomenslaved to pornography with no power to escape. If you are one of those girls struggling in this specific area, I have great news for you. There is hope! If you have trusted Christ as your personal Savior, you can have hope and lasting freedom in this area. The truth is, in and of yourself you have no power to escape, but with the power of Christ dwelling inside of you, you can find freedom. Sin and death were overcome by Jesus at the cross. There is no sin in the world that is too big for God to conquer. If you are struggling with pornography and desire to find lasting freedom in this area, let me encourage you to consider these thoughts and verses. Confess your sin to God. First John 1:9 says, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." Ask God to cleanse and renew your mind. Romans 12:2 says, "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect." Ask God to help you fill your mind with holiness and truth. Philippians 4:8 says, "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things." Do whatever it takes to get rid of pornography. Throw away books, magazines, TVs, computers, etc. Matthew 5:29 says, "If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell." Girls, I want you to know that you do not have to continue on in your secret struggles. These verses are only the start of what Christ has to offer on gaining victory in this area. I encourage you to talk to your parents or pastor's wife about your struggle. For freedom and lasting joy, you need accountability and guidance that this blog can't offer you. PS: We are organizing a prayer effort specifically asking God to give girls freedom in this area. As part of that, check out Erin's post on TrueWoman.com calling older women to pray for Y-O-U.

About the Author

Bethany Beal

Bethany Beal is the co-founder of GirlDefined Ministries and co-author of several books, including Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity. She is passionate about spreading the truth of biblical womanhood through writing, speaking, and mentoring women, and you can catch her unpacking exciting and controversial topics every week on her podcast, The Girl Defined Show. Bethany is married to her best friend and husband, David, and they have one son, Davey Jr.