Encouraging One Another

In a world where terrorism, war, violence, and divorce are everyday topics, one of the most vital ministries we can have as women, is the ministry of encouragement.

We have all known what it is to be discouraged. And we all know people who are in great need of encouragement. Every week I hear from listeners who are battling hopelessness and despair. They desperately need the gift of encouragement—someone to give them courage, hope, confidence, and comfort.

Being an encourager doesn’t come naturally for most of us, but, for a believer, it’s not an option. Thirty-two times in the New Testament we are reminded of things we are to do for “one another.” One of these commands is to encourage one another (Heb. 3:13). When we encourage others, we are reflecting the heart of God, who is “the God of encouragement” (Rom. 15:5).

Who Needs It?

As you think about the people you know, ask God to put on your heart two or three people who need encouragement.

Start with your own family. It’s hypocritical for us to try to encourage everyone else in the world while failing to encourage those within the four walls of our own homes.

If you are married, your husband needs you to be his number one cheerleader. Your home should be a refuge for your husband, the one place where he knows he can turn for consistent encouragement.

Moms, your children, no matter how young or old, need your encouragement. When people speak encouraging words to us, we are motivated to live up to their words. Everyone blooms under encouragement, and so will your children.

Others who need our encouragement include:

  • pastors and church staff members, and their wives 
  • other mothers, including expectant moms and single moms
  • those who are lonely, such as single people or the elderly 
  • people who are sick and hospitalized 
  • new believers
  • those who are struggling with a sin habit
  • those who are grieving

The best way to experience the encouragement that you long for is to be an encourager to others. So ask God to help you see people with His eyes, to love them with His heart, to encourage them with His helping hands. As you do, God will encourage and strengthen your own heart.

Ways to Encourage

I don’t know of anything more encouraging that you can do for others than to pray. Pray for them, and pray with them. If someone says, “I’m struggling” or, “I have a need,” stop and pray with that person right then and there, if possible.

I can’t tell you how much it means to me when someone says, “Let me pray for you”—and then does it on the spot! I have one friend who virtually never ends a conversation—whether in person or on the phone—without praying for the person he is talking to. That friend has been a huge source of encouragement to me and to countless others.

Another important way we can encourage one another is with our words. Proverbs 12:25 tells us that “anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad” (NKJV). Your encouraging words can be a tonic in someone else’s life.

I can’t emphasize enough the importance of this to the people we’re closest to. Think of those times when your husband is really discouraged. Do your words further tear him down or do they strengthen him? Your words, whether spoken or written, can breathe courage and strength into hearts of people who feel hopelessly overwhelmed.

We can encourage one another through giving gifts—and those gifts don’t have to be expensive. Within the past week, I have received several meaningful gifts—including a Scripture plaque, flowers, notecards, and a CD of praise music—from people who just wanted me to know they were thinking of me. What an encouragement those special reminders have been to my heart!

Acts of service are another way to encourage others: take a meal to someone; offer to babysit so a couple can get out for a date together; visit an elderly person; or clean the house for a sick friend or a mom with several small children.

In a world where so many people are sad, lonely, and hurting, how we need to encourage one another. As we do, God will use our hands, hearts, and words to communicate His heart and minister grace to those around us.

© Revive Our Hearts. By Nancy Leigh DeMoss. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com 


About the Author

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth has touched the lives of millions of women through two nationally syndicated radio programs heard each day—Revive Our Hearts and Seeking Him. Her books have sold more than five million copies. Through her writing, podcasts, and events, Nancy is reaching the hearts of women around the world, calling them to freedom, fullness, and fruitfulness in Christ.