Living Life Together: A Worthy Investment (part 4)

We did it! This article concludes our four-part mentoring journey, Living Life Together. It’s been our joy to travel together. Now it’s your turn to adorn the gospel. We have a few ideas in mind. Start by downloading the series, which includes real-life Titus 2 testimonies, and share it with your friends. Pray, then reach out to a younger or older woman and start doing life side-by-side. Or organize a group using Revive Our Hearts’ newest resource, the Adorned Small Group Kit.

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. —Titus 2:3–5

An intentional Titus 2 relationship is often long-term, where you and your friend develop a friendship that continues throughout different stages of life. Other times, there are natural seasons of mentoring that have a beginning and an end. How will you know the difference?

It’s a good idea when you start meeting to set a date in the future where you will take time to evaluate. This gives you and your friend a chance to prayerfully consider whether you are meeting together too much, not often enough, etc. This is also a way to offer comfortable closure to the relationship, if needed.

You can also do periodic check-ups, asking questions like, “Is this relationship still meeting a need?” “Do we need to make adjustments?” Circumstances in life are continually shifting, and that can often dictate changes that need to be made.

If you’re at a point when you’ve given your friend all you can or she is no longer interested, then you might need to make some changes. Together, celebrate the blessings God has given through your special relationship and agree when it’s time to move on. Whenever you sense she is ready, encourage your friend to start pouring herself into another life.

No matter if your lives connect for a short time or a long while, continue to be her friend and offer to be there if she needs you. A true Titus 2 relationship is never completely over. It just changes as your friend starts to depend more and more on Christ.

Don’t Overthink It

If mentoring is new to you, the idea can be overwhelming. By now we hope you feel more prepared to start living out the purpose for which you were created. We recognize that many women feel inadequate—that they don’t have enough education or knowledge of Scripture to help someone else grow. But investing in another woman doesn’t require an advanced degree. It’s living life together and speaking into a younger life, giving that person space to ask questions.

What your friend needs most from you is to feel God’s love and acceptance expressed through you. If you’re willing to share your heart and life with her, then God will give you all you need as He accomplishes His purposes in and through you.

As you meet together, cover the relationship in prayer—before, during, and after. Be quick to listen and slow to speak, making sure you have cultivated the relationship before you start pouring out truth. While mentoring can be done through a book study, such as Adorned: Living Out the Beauty of the Gospel Together, more often it’s out of living life and pointing others to the Word.

Most of the time, a young woman simply wants someone trustworthy she can share her heart with. You don't have to necessarily have answers, but you can listen and point her to the One who does. Share honestly out of your own life experiences, and be transparent about your failures. Let her see an imperfect person who struggles and faces challenges. Mentoring flows out of being with Jesus.

So even if you’ve never been mentored yourself, you can be used by God. This is an adventure not to be missed—an investment that has eternal rewards. Consider the legacy you will leave as a spiritual mother. Each one of us has the privilege, and the responsibility, for training up the next generation. And God has graciously given us His Spirit to accomplish what He’s given us to do.

Titus 2 presents a grand vision of women of all ages growing more beautiful as the gospel of Christ adorns our lives. Adorning that gospel by the way we live. Together, making the gospel believable and attractive—as we live life together in God’s good plan.

Keep your channel tuned to the Leader Connection for our next free resource on leading a small group. And don’t forget to check out our new Adorned Small Group Kit!

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About the Author

Mindy Kroesche

Mindy Kroesche

Mindy and her husband, Jon make their home in the heartland of Lincoln, Nebraska. They’ve been blessed with a son and daughter who remind them daily of God’s goodness and grace. Mindy is a stay-at-home mom who has the privilege of working part-time for Revive Our Hearts from home. She has degrees in journalism and French and has worked in ministry for over twenty years.

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