Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands (Prov. 14:1).
- Am I building up my house or tearing it down?
- Am I investing in my marriage? Am I nurturing the heart of my marriage?
- Do I frequently express admiration and gratitude to my husband?
- Am I reserving the best of my physical and emotional energy for my family?
- Am I creating a climate (through words, actions, and attitudes) that makes my husband want to be at home?
- Am I content to be "at home"? Am I finding my "fulfillment" through reverencing and serving my husband and family?
- Do I reserve intimate communication, looks, words, and touch for my husband? Am I giving of my emotions, attention, affection to a man other than my husband?
- Am I meeting my husband's sexual needs?
- Am I trustworthy? Is there any behavior or relationship I am involved in that I am keeping from my husband? Have I been totally honest with my husband?
- Does my husband have the freedom to be totally honest with me?
- Am I fueling sensual thoughts and desires through books, magazines, TV programs, music, or movies that are not morally pure?
- Have I become a "refuge" for a man who may be struggling in his marriage?
- Am I looking to a man other than my husband (pastor, counselor, colleague) to be a primary source of counsel or to fill an emotional vacuum in my life?
- Do I have a more intimate relationship--physically, emotionally, or spiritually--with any man than I do with my husband?
- Does my demeanor tend to be "loud and defiant," or do I communicate a meek, quiet, and submissive spirit?
- Am I a "wall" or a "door" (Song of Songs 8:12)? Am I a "loose" woman? Do I communicate to the men around me that I am "available"? Does my demeanor invite them to "partake" of intimate parts of my body, soul, or spirit? Do I engage in flirtatious speech, looks, or behavior?
- Is there anything about my speech, actions, dress, or attitudes that could defraud the men around me?
- Am I discreet and restrained in the way I talk with men at work? Is my conversation ever loose, crude, or unbecoming for a woman of God? Am I expressing admiration for a man that should more appropriately come from his wife?
- Does my dress help men to keep their thoughts pure and Christ-centered? Is my dress feminine and modest?
- Have I erected (and am I maintaining) adequate "hedges" in my relationships with men? What are those hedges?
- Am I currently in a situation that is (or could become) compromising? Am I in a situation that could appear to others to be compromising?
- Would my husband, as well as other men and women who know me, say that I am a woman of moral virtue and purity?
- Have I purposed in my heart to be morally pure? Am I making myself accountable to my husband and to another godly woman for my walk with God and others?
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies (Prov. 31:10).
©Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth. Used by permission. Life Action Ministries. 1998