Becoming a Woman of Virtue

Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands (Prov. 14:1).
  1. Am I building up my house or tearing it down?
  2. Am I investing in my marriage? Am I nurturing the heart of my marriage?
  3. Do I frequently express admiration and gratitude to my husband?
  4. Am I reserving the best of my physical and emotional energy for my family?
  5. Am I creating a climate (through words, actions, and attitudes) that makes my husband want to be at home?
  6. Am I content to be "at home"? Am I finding my "fulfillment" through reverencing and serving my husband and family?
  7. Do I reserve intimate communication, looks, words, and touch for my husband? Am I giving of my emotions, attention, affection to a man other than my husband?
  8. Am I meeting my husband's sexual needs?
  9. Am I trustworthy? Is there any behavior or relationship I am involved in that I am keeping from my husband? Have I been totally honest with my husband?
  10. Does my husband have the freedom to be totally honest with me?
  11. Am I fueling sensual thoughts and desires through books, magazines, TV programs, music, or movies that are not morally pure?
  12. Have I become a "refuge" for a man who may be struggling in his marriage?
  13. Am I looking to a man other than my husband (pastor, counselor, colleague) to be a primary source of counsel or to fill an emotional vacuum in my life?
  14. Do I have a more intimate relationship--physically, emotionally, or spiritually--with any man than I do with my husband?
  15. Does my demeanor tend to be "loud and defiant," or do I communicate a meek, quiet, and submissive spirit?
  16. Am I a "wall" or a "door" (Song of Songs 8:12)? Am I a "loose" woman? Do I communicate to the men around me that I am "available"? Does my demeanor invite them to "partake" of intimate parts of my body, soul, or spirit? Do I engage in flirtatious speech, looks, or behavior?
  17. Is there anything about my speech, actions, dress, or attitudes that could defraud the men around me?
  18. Am I discreet and restrained in the way I talk with men at work? Is my conversation ever loose, crude, or unbecoming for a woman of God? Am I expressing admiration for a man that should more appropriately come from his wife?
  19. Does my dress help men to keep their thoughts pure and Christ-centered? Is my dress feminine and modest?
  20. Have I erected (and am I maintaining) adequate "hedges" in my relationships with men? What are those hedges?
  21. Am I currently in a situation that is (or could become) compromising? Am I in a situation that could appear to others to be compromising?
  22. Would my husband, as well as other men and women who know me, say that I am a woman of moral virtue and purity?
  23. Have I purposed in my heart to be morally pure? Am I making myself accountable to my husband and to another godly woman for my walk with God and others?

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies (Prov. 31:10).


©Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth. Used by permission. Life Action Ministries. 1998

 

Scripture Proverbs 14:1

About the Author

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth has touched the lives of millions of women through Revive Our Hearts and the True Woman movement, calling them to heart revival and biblical womanhood. Her love for Christ and His Word is infectious, and permeates her online outreaches, conference messages, books, and two daily nationally syndicated radio programs—Revive Our Hearts and Seeking Him.

She has authored nineteen books, including Lies Women Believe and the Truth that Sets Them Free, Seeking Him (coauthored), and Adorned: Living Out the Beauty of the Gospel Together. Her books have sold more than three million copies and are reaching the hearts of women around the world. Nancy and her husband, Robert, live in Michigan.