Who Am I, Lord?

One of the most consistent struggles in my life can be summed up in one word: identity. I first became aware of it in my early teen years. I stopped eating to see the numbers on the bathroom scale drop. I worked tirelessly to get all A’s and please all the grown-ups in my life. Everything looked great on the outside, but I developed stomach ulcers by the time I was sixteen—so great was the pressure to become a person of worth.

Through the years, I transitioned into and out of many identities: wife, daughter, mom, psychologist, author, friend, and radio personality. But which really defined me? The Sunday school answer was always the backdrop: “I’m God’s child. He loves me and made me in His image.” Why was that never enough?

Only within the last few years have I admitted that I doubted the unconditional and intimate nature of God’s love for me. How could I be sure that He doesn’t love me based on how I’m performing, like everyone else seemed to? I’ve had people profess their love to me only to change their mind somewhere along the way. How could I be sure that God wouldn’t do the same?

I’ve come to realize that God’s words of love for me held little weight because they had always been delivered “second-hand.” Many others had told me of God’s love, but I needed to hear it from God Himself. So I began asking Him. And I began waiting to hear the answer. And waiting . . .

Here’s what I discovered: God didn’t just tell me that He loves me, He began to tell me who I am. When you draw near to God and listen, He doesn’t speak generically—but specifically. If you look closely at the Bible, you will see time after time how the Lord spoke personally and intimately to a person about who they are:

Abram—You are the father of many nations (Rom. 4:17).
Gideon—You are a mighty warrior (Jud. 6:12).
Daniel—You are highly esteemed by God (Dan. 9:23).
Mary—You are highly favored by God (Luke 1:28).
Peter—You are the rock upon which I will build my church (Matt. 16:18).
David—You are a man after God’s heart (Acts 13:22).
Nathaniel—You are a true Israelite in whom there is no deceit (John 1:47).

God longs to tell you personally that He loves you. Even more, He wants to speak specifically and intimately about who you are. It may be difficult for you to imagine that the Creator of the universe would stoop down to whisper His truth in your ear, but He is speaking to you by His Spirit through the Word. The question is: Are you listening?

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About the Author

Dr. Juli Slattery

Dr. Juli Slattery

Dr. Juli is a widely known clinical psychologist, author, speaker, and broadcast media professional who loves the Lord with all her heart. After co-hosting Focus on the Family's international radio and television outreaches for several years, she joined Linda Dillow in founding Authentic Intimacy. She and her husband Mike have been married for almost two decades. They are raising their three boys in Colorado Springs where Juli can be found playing in the mountains and trying to manage her addiction to soy lattes.

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