Taming That Tongue

Our tongues can bless, gripe, complain, and communicate the gospel—all within a matter of minutes! Tongues can inspire the hardest heart or crush a tender spirit. Proverbs 21:23 warns us to “guard the tongue” in order to stay out of trouble.

But how?

Most of us would probably tend to agree that guarding, or taming, our tongues is ultimately a deep-rooted heart-issue. But . . . could part of the heart purification process involve the difficult choice to bridle our tongues?

James warns us that we need not boast about our Christianity if we’re not actively working to “bridle our tongues.” Just as a horse needs a bridle to direct his course, we need to put “bridles” or disciplines in place that will help in taming our tongues. 

While James states that no one (in their own power) can “tame the tongue,” thankfully, God provides all you need to discipline this unruly critter (2 Peter 1:3-8)! As you cooperate with Him, here are some practical tips to help you tame that unruly tongue.

Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal when your tongue does not glorify Christ, and for grace to speak life-giving words (Ephesians 4:29).
Ask for input from family members and friends. This can be humiliating but it allows those who know us best to uncover “blind spots.” Please be prepared with a receptive heart! (Proverbs 27:5-6)
Post Scriptures which apply to the tongue and begin memorizing them.
Ask a friend to hold you accountable. Share specific areas of need and pray together for victory and grace.
• Practice the principle of crying out for HELP! When tempted: Stop. Close your mouth. Take a deep breath and cry out for God’s grace to overcome the temptation!
Use less words. Practice the spiritual discipline of “quiet.”
Learn to HALT!

This list is far from complete. I would love for you to add a few tips of your own below! And we’d love to hear from some of you who are memorizing James 3:7-11 or 1-12. How is it going? (You can join us at any time. Click here for Revive Our Hearts’ Monthly Memory Plan.)






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Kimberly Wagner

Kimberly Wagner

Kimberly Wagner’s passion is Christ, and she desires to ignite women's pursuit of God's glory. She's the author of Fierce Women, and is a frequent guest on the Revive Our Hearts radio program, as well as a regular contributor to the True Woman blog. She enjoys sharing with women and hearing from them about what God is doing in their lives.

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