Is Marriage a Get-Out-Of-Work-Free Card?

This October I'll marry a "rich" (in my mind, anyway!) CPA husband. Money has never been a big priority to me; I think I always imagined marrying a poor seminary student.  

So I've been pleasantly taken back by this surprising twist. Truth be told, I've looked forward to mooching off of him, to not having to put in forty hours at the office each week, to benefiting from his labors.

But then I read this in The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian:

"Show me how I can help increase our finances and not decrease them unwisely."

What an intriguing concept!

I mean, I'd definitely imagined blessing him physically, emotionally, relationally, and spiritually, but . . . financially? Not so much.

Turns out, marriage is not an excuse for laziness.

I'm a little slow. I should've already known that from Proverbs 31, right?

"An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels."

In other words, she herself makes her husband rich.  

But just because she herself offers her husband precious value doesn't earn her a get-out-of-work-free card. The passage continues,

"The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain" (emphasis added).

If you're skeptical that this gain could include actual physical, material wealth, keep on reading:

"She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. . . . She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household . . . She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard . . . She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night . . . She makes linen garments and sells them . . . She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness" (Prov. 31:12–27).  

So I have a new aim: to bless my future husband in every area, including our finances.

I have a new aim: to bless my future husband in every area, including our finances.

 

How about you? Is there a way you can help increase your husband's finances while still "looking well to the ways of your household"? Or, at a minimum, are there ways you can take care that you're not decreasing your husband's finances unwisely?

(Singles, this starts right now, with what you do with your money even before you meet your someday husband!)

Am I the only one, or does anyone else out there need to repent of a mooch-like attitude?

Let's get to work, ladies, and bless our husbands in every way. Yes, even financially.

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Paula Marsteller

Paula Marsteller

Paula has served with Revive Our Hearts for twelve years. She is the author of Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom. There's nothing she loves to share more than the gospel-centered truths that have so transformed her own life: what it means on a daily basis to be "dead to sin, alive to God, and in Christ Jesus." Paula, Trevor, and their son, Iren, make their home in New York.

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