How Do I Guard My Heart?

A verse that people have often quoted to me regarding my relationships with guys is Proverbs 4:23:

Guard your heart, for from it flow the springs of life.

I’ve never known exactly what that meant . . . just that I was somehow supposed to steel myself against the very thing I wanted most.

Now, I’m not going to go into the nuances of the Hebrew words—but I do want to share a couple of things God impressed on me as I was walking through a cherry orchard talking to Him about this recently:

1.Guarding my heart does not mean protecting myself from being hurt. There’s no way I can insulate myself from any possibility of pain. Pain is a regular part of relationships in this broken world.

2.Guarding my heart does mean allowing no one access to that most central place of my affections but God. It means keeping the first commandment first—and loving Him with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength (Deut. 6:5).

If I can keep Christ central in my affections, if He is my dearest friend, if intimacy with Him is my number one pursuit, then my future husband will be one blessed guy. And, if I never marry, I will have already allowed Jesus to fill the empty places in my heart.  

How about you? Are you regularly spending time sitting at Jesus’ feet getting to know Him (Luke 10:39)? Do you have a plan for pursuing intimacy with Him?

Did you discover God’s Truth today?

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About the Author

Paula Marsteller

Paula Marsteller

Paula has served with Revive Our Hearts for thirteen years. She is the author of Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom. There's nothing she loves to share more than the gospel-centered truths that have so transformed her own life: what it means on a daily basis to be "dead to sin, alive to God, and in Christ Jesus." Paula, Trevor, and their son, Iren, make their home in New York.

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