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Adorned - Week 11: Need Help Lovin' That Man

Whether you have a strong marriage or whether it’s hanging by a thread, Dannah’s transparent story will encourage you to love your husband deeper.

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Dannah Gresh

Dannah Gresh

Dannah Gresh is the best-selling author, speaker, and founder of True Girl (formerly Secret Keeper Girl), America's most popular Christian tween event. She has authored over 20 books that have …

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Dannah Gresh: If there is one thing I could tell my young, single adult daughters about marriage, it would be this: “Loving your husband is going to be the easiest thing you’ll ever do . . . and . . . loving your husband is going to be the hardest thing you will ever do!” Amen? . . . a double amen, I heard over there!

Learn to love well. Single women, young women—whether God has marriage in your future or not, learn now to love well. Intentionally enter into the training of your heart for relationship.

To do that, we have to understand God’s love, and His language for love is a little difficult in our modern languages because our modern languages don’t have the complexities of the Greek and Hebrew languages.

For instance, I love my husband. I also love a good hot fudge sundae . . . but not in the same way! And, thankfully, the Hebrew and Greek language of the Bible is very specific and descriptive about the types of love we need to learn to be in relationship—especially when it comes to marriage.

Today, we’re going to look at one type of love we need to grow in for our marriage. It’s obviously found in Titus 2. Today we’re going to talk about friendship love. Single sisters, this is the kind of love you actually can practice right now in your friendships, so look at what I’m about to teach through the lens of your existing relationships.

Titus 2 tells us that we are supposed to be training the younger women to love their husbands. And what kind of love is described in the book of Titus in chapter 2? Friendship love! Now how do I know it’s friendship love? Because I read the book! [She is referring to Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth’s book Adorned: Living Out the Beauty of the Gospel Together.] (laughter)

How does Nancy know it is friendship love? Because she studied the Greek language. In the pages of Adorned she writes this about the word that Paul uses in Titus 2: “His language conveys the idea of being a friend to our husbands, being fond of them—acting affectionately toward them, treating them with our utmost devotion, enjoying them, finding pleasure in their company, liking them!”

Ladies, do you like your husband? Does your husband know that you like him? That’s what we want to talk about today, and I want to encourage you to grow with me in our friendship love for our husbands in two very specific ways.

The very first way is this: I want you to grow in friendship with your husband practically. We need to show friendship love to our husband practically. Now, girls, we’ve gotta work on this from their perspective—not our perspective.

Playing with someone when it’s how you like to play—that’s not really fair. Think back to elementary school: were you ever the girl who took her ball and went home because you didn’t like the way your girlfriend wanted to play? Don’t be that girl in marriage!

Let’s grow up together, and let’s learn to play in the way that they want to play. This has been no small lesson in my life as of late. I want to share with you how God has been stretching me and growing me, to see how my husband likes to experience friendship.

This summer, Bob and I were on our way to Michigan, where we would be visiting with Nancy and Robert. And on the way we had a “discussion.” (laughter) We were both communicating about some of the unmet needs in our relationship.

And my husband said something like this . . . he was concerned that we didn’t …

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Woman to woman.
Older and younger.
Side by side.
Life on life.
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