Will You Disciple Me?

It happened at a True Woman conference. In a seminar on Titus 2 discipleship, a young woman tearfully said, “After much prayer I asked a woman in my church to disciple me, and she immediately agreed. But that was six months ago, and I have heard nothing from her.”

There was a collective gasp in the room.

It was a tender moment. I hesitantly began, “Dear one, I can only imagine how devastated you must feel, but I suspect that the woman you asked to disciple you is even more devastated. She eagerly agreed to disciple you because she wants to do this, but I envision her waking up every day wondering what she is supposed to do. She does not know how to disciple a younger woman, and she likely feels guilty and defeated.” There was a collective nod of agreement.

This should not be. God has given us a simple and magnificent solution.

But as for you, teach what accords with sound doctrine. . . . Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled (Titus 2:1, 3–5).

Consider five principles in this passage.

  1. As for you.
    The you is Titus, the pastor of the church in Crete. The mandate for women to disciple women was given to the leaders of the church.
  2. Teach sound doctrine.
    The gospel imperative for women to disciple women is to take place in the context of the preaching of sound doctrine.
  3. Older women . . . teach.
    This is not a new command. This is the Great Commission (Matt. 28:18–20) made gender-specific. Not all discipleship is to be gender-specific, but there should be some times in the life of the church when women train women and men train men.
  4. Train the young women.
    The word train includes demonstrating or modeling. It’s a nurturing, mothering ministry. Paul captures the idea when he writes to the Thessalonians:

    We were gentle among you, like a nursing mother taking care of her own children. So, being affectionately desirous of you, we were ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own selves, because you had become very dear to us (1 Thess. 2:7–8).

  5. That the word of God may not be reviled.
    I cannot fully wrap my head around this compelling statement, but I do understand this—if we disobey this command, God’s Word will be dishonored.

So one way the church fulfills the Great Commission is to equip spiritually mature women to nurture, or spiritually mother, other women. It is not enough to simply tell women they should disciple others. There should be an intentional identifying, training, and grouping women together so they can share their lives and the gospel with one another. There are various ways this can be done—small groups, one-one-one relationships, as part of existing Bible studies—but the important thing is that it should be done so that God’s Word is honored.

Susan Hunt’s “Titus 2 Tools” is a resource that helps churches determine the best model for discipleship and then identify and train Titus 2 leaders.

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